Excerpt from Tantra Vision : The Door to Nirvana by Osho
"Just the other night a sannyasin who is going back was saying that love between her and her husband has disappeared. Now they are hanging together just for the children.
I told her to meditate, to be friendly to the husband. If love has disappeared, all has not disappeared; friendship is still possible. Be friendly. And she said 'It is difficult. When a cup is broken, it is broken.'
I told her that it seemed she had not heard that Zen people in Japan will first purchase a cup from the supermarket, bring it home, break it, then glue it together again to make it individual and special. Otherwise it is just a market thing.
And if a friend comes and you give him tea in an ordinary cup and saucer, that is not good; that is ugly, that is not respectful. So they will bring a fresh new cup, and break it.
Of course, then there is no other cup in the world exactly like it --there cannot be. Glued together, now it has some individuality, a signature.
And when Zen people go to each other's house or each other's monastery, they will not just sip the tea. First they will appreciate the cup, they will look at it. The way it has been joined together is a piece of art -- the way the pieces have been broken and put together again.
The woman understood, she started laughing. She said 'Then it is possible....'!"
For any relationship, it's not about how its broken, it's how we fix it that makes us all unique :)
